exerpt from "Khabzela: The Life and Times of a South African"

I asked: "So you knew he was unfaithful but you didn't realize the extent of it till after you found out you had HIV?"
Sibongile replied: "Sometimes, when you're in a relationship you try not to see things. Then people come and tell you stuff but you still ignore it because you love this person and you want to make it right. There was a time when we fought a lot and I didn't know why we were fighting. There was just confusion. When we fought, he would bring me here (to my father's house). And when I went back to the house, I would find a sign that there was a woman there. You see how women are. You think you are the owner of the house but we are many.